This Is Me Letting You Go

by Heidi Priebe

We lose something we love and it seems natural to try to reconstruct it

If only I can make this pain pretty, we tell ourselves, then it mattered. Then there’s some reason to carry it forward. But real pain isn’t pretty at all.

I was falling in love at some points and I was falling apart at others.

Life happens before we are ready for it.

moving on when you don’t want to. It’s a book about receiving a future you’re not ready for. It’s a book about accepting that the hand we are dealt is not always the one we want to play and yet we have to learn to keep on playing anyway.

Because nobody else can let go for you.

And I know that something as incredibly mundane as a “Good morning” text may have made all the difference in the world.

good morning texts are more than a half-hearted means of communication. They are a sign that we are thought of. Cared for. Adored, by someone who may not be immediately present. They are a reminder – one we perhaps should not need but sometimes do – that we are appreciated in our entireties.

You deserve to have a good day today. Not because of some universal law that necessitates good things happening to worthwhile people, but because we all do.

Just because someone is not around to appreciate the complexities of who you are does not mean that you deserve anything less than pure joy.

There’s a particular way you laugh that can make an entire room light up, if only for a moment in time. There is a way you tilt your head when you are concentrating that makes you look unbearably kissable – as if you were placed on this earth only to stare at things and frown in the most endearing form humanely possible. There is a noise you make when you are falling asleep – a soft, almost inaudible sigh that sounds like the ethereal embodiment of all that is tranquil and calm. There are a thousand minute intricacies that make up the tapestry of who you are and not a single one has ceased to exist since the last time that somebody loved you.

Who you are doesn’t cease to exist because there’s nobody there to admire it.

The way you hold yourself still exudes confidence, even if there’s no one to assert it to.

All the little quirks that make you up are not extinguished because somebody once chose against them.

You still deserve to have a good day, even when there’s no one there to wish it to you. Even if you forget to remind yourself.

Don’t forget about what makes you incredible. Don’t let your own intricacies slide. Because the loveable parts of you are not gone – I absolutely promise you that much.

At the end of the day, we’re all in charge of what we bring to our lives. So be the person who brings light to your own, even if nobody else shows up to it. Be the person who has a good day, even if nobody wishes it to them. Find a way to fuel your flame when no one else remembers to, because the world needs the light you give off.

And you, my dear, are too intense a power to be reduced by something as small and insignificant as the lack of a good morning text.

Isn’t it insane how we do that as humans – how we have to feign distance and disinterest as a means of expressing how we feel for one another?

Your mind is an infinite library that I would like to peruse for a while.

Something about you reminds me that there are bigger, better, more important things out there

but something about you injected color into my world

Timing is a bitch, yes. But it’s only a bitch if we let it be.

the people we meet at the wrong time are actually just the wrong people.

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The right people don’t make you hmm and haw about whether or not you want to be with them; you just know. You know that any adventure you had originally planned out for your future isn’t going to be half as incredible as the adventures you could have by their side. That no matter what you thought you wanted before, this is better. Everything is better since they came along.

The right people don’t stand in the way of the things you once wanted and make you choose them over them.

The truth is, when we pass someone up because the timing is wrong, what we are really saying is that we don’t care to spend our time on that person.

Because when someone is right for us, we make the time to let them into our lives. And that kind of timing is always right.

imagine for a second that you knew – with 100% certainty – that you were never going to meet that person. What about your life would that knowledge change?

love is on the forefront of our actions even when it’s not on the forefront of our minds.

Love’s what inspires most of your greatest changes.

The idea that someday somebody will love all our flaws is a subtle excuse not to work on them.

And what about your other relationships – would they suddenly take on more weight?

Would you spend more time appreciating your family, if you knew that they are the people who will have loved you the most strongly at the end of your life? What about your friendships?

Love holds us back in an infinite amount of subtle ways that perhaps we do not even realize. And the guarantee of its absence may just be the ultimate sense of liberation.

we are allowed to be the loves of our own.

We could become everything we’ve been searching for.

If there’s one thing we all need to stop doing, it’s waiting around for someone else to show up and change our lives. Just be the person you’ve been waiting for.

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We have to start appreciating all that we bring to our own lives.

When you’re living your life confidently, freely and without restraint, you emit the kind of energy that it just isn’t possible to fake.

Be The One.

And let everybody else come searching for you.

You Should Choose The Lifestyle You Want Over The Person You Want

You should be able to be with somebody you love and also live a life that entices, invigorates and inspires you.

You should be able to pursue what you want out of this world in every fearless way you want to without running the risk of losing the person you value most.

What you have when you have a relationship that forces you to whittle or water yourself down is a mismatch of values.