When we hold an abundance model of relationships, it’s easier to just go do the things that bring us joy, without worrying about searching for a partner. That tends to make us more attractive, because happy, confident people are desirable.
It is true that there is scarcity among poly relationships however there is abundance too as the pool is quite large regardless. Viewing it this way may lead to a more positive mindset eg. Losing a relationship. If you believe that, despite criteria you have for potential partners, the pool for new partners is still a reasonable size then you will be less likely to dwell on a loss.
