The best way to understand why someone might be polyamorous is to ask, “What do people get out of relationships in the first place?” Romance is a fiddly business even in the best of circumstances; why not just give it all a miss and be done with it? A quick answer might be “We are happier when we’re in relationships than when we’re not.” Humans are social animals. We do better when we share our lives intimately with others. We’re built for it. As complicated and messy and unpredictable as romance is, its rewards are fantastic. Indeed, most of us feel driven to seek out people who see us for
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