We’ve known a few people who have been in relationships with monogamously inclined partners who agreed to a polyamorous relationship, but only after they “felt secure in the relationship.” That turned out to be…never. Of course, if your reward for feeling secure is something you don’t want, you don’t have much incentive to ever feel secure. These relationships can last for years before ending. We know of at least one that has been going on for six years, the polyamorous partner still wistfully hopeful that someday his monogamous partner will “get there.”
