ask yourself, "Does it involve me directly?" If not, you're well advised to leave the conflict to them to work out themselves. If it does, the next question is, what do I want? When people you love have different ideas or opinions, the question of what you want can easily get lost in the struggle to please others. Moreover, if you're focused on trying to please your partners rather than taking responsibility for your choices, it becomes easy for your partners to focus on each other as the reason you're not doing what each of them wants. Advocating for what you want when you're being pulled in
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