The Power of the Other: The startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond-and what to do about it

by Henry Cloud

The damage from a lack of connection goes even deeper. It is not just what we can see on the outside. If you were to look at their brains on brain scans, as many researchers have done, you’ll see literal black holes, spaces where the neurons did not form, where neurological systems did not grow; the physical hard-wiring of their brains is incomplete.