The Power of the Other: The startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond-and what to do about it

by Henry Cloud

He just kind of looked at me. Silent. Staring into the middle distance . . . no words. It was strange for a moment, how stunned he looked. So I asked, “Do you remember ever needing and depending on others?” This is when it got really interesting. He looked into space for a moment and then said that something had brought a lot of different strands of experience and memories together for him. “I just remembered something that might have to do with what you are talking about,” he said. “What?” I asked. “It’s going to sound weird, but it may be what you’re getting at. When I was about sixteen, my father’s drinking had