The Power of the Other: The startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond-and what to do about it

by Henry Cloud

If I’m mad at you or hurt by you or disagree with you, I (and you) really need me to talk directly to you to resolve it. That’s the only way we’re going to get to some resolution of the matter. In the absence of that kind of give-and-take, bad feelings fester and spread infection—poisoning not just this one relationship but the mood and positive connections for everyone else involved.