The Power of the Other: The startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond-and what to do about it

by Henry Cloud

It doesn’t even take a boss or another person to drive you into Corner Two; you end up there all by yourself. You can even do it in your car driving alone! That happens when your primary connection is with an internal judge who has lived inside your head for a long time—perhaps someone from your formative years or a significant other from your past. The message implanted by that person becomes the one your chip seems to always connect to, getting a response that leaves you feeling not good enough, playing defense. By comparing yourself to some unrealistic, nonexistent standard, you’re always failing.