The Power of the Other: The startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond-and what to do about it

by Henry Cloud

Do you want to know how you’re doing if you’re in Corner Number One? Here are the signs to look out for: Clinical: Increased stress; lower energy levels, concentration, and motivation; problems sleeping; lowered libido; increased fear and anxiety; increased levels of suspicion, distrust, and resentment; loss of hope and purpose. Relational: Not feeling as connected to others as you once did—even at home and in your personal life, more isolation, detachment from those you care most about, conflicts with those you’re close to, shortness of temper, lack of patience, anger, or just not wanting to be involved or around others. Loss of interest in relationship, in being with people. Disappointment with relationship itself, and a feeling of just being cut off. Performance: Not getting the results you need and feeling as if it all depends upon you to do so; not being able to get “on top of it all,” procrastination, disorganization, lack of clarity about goals, feeling bogged down by tasks someone else should be doing, diminished focus.