The Power of the Other: The startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond-and what to do about it

by Henry Cloud

There is no freedom without responsibility, and that is generally taken only if there are consequences for not taking it. A standard without consequences is a fantasy, a wish, or a suggestion, not a standard. And consequences that involve no pain or loss aren’t consequences at all. Real ones mean that if I don’t meet the standard, I lose something important to me. Otherwise, we drift.