The Power of the Other: The startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond-and what to do about it

by Henry Cloud

We learn to soothe and regulate our emotions when an external soothing system is internalized. We learn to challenge ourselves when someone pushes us past our perceived limits, and then we learn to do that for ourselves. We learn to think differently and to think about our thinking by having someone observe us and get us to observe ourselves.