The Power of the Other: The startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond-and what to do about it

by Henry Cloud

That’s why the combination of feedback and deliberate practice is so important. It’s not just a matter of swinging the golf club for ten thousand hours; it’s doing so with feedback from coaches, from your results, and from exposure to different techniques (and don’t forget talent). Repetition creates wiring, but it’s constructive feedback that creates the positive patterns we want to repeat and reinforce.