The Power of the Other: The startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond-and what to do about it

by Henry Cloud

In contrast, Halvorson points out another aspect of the “get-better” orientation: it leads people to ask for more help, which leads to improvement and busting through limits. People with this orientation ask for help more than the be-gooders, because asking for help proves to be-gooders that they’re not as good or smart as they want to be, and others might see that as well.