The Power of the Other: The startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond-and what to do about it

by Henry Cloud

We’ve examined what it takes to become a high performer. First of all, we’ve established that, whether we acknowledge it or not, other people have power in one’s life that greatly influences one’s performance. Second, that power can be positive or negative in its influence. Third, we can’t get to the next level without opening ourselves up to the positive power that others bring. We must be an “open system.” Fourth, in order to open up and receive, we must be vulnerable and willing to go into a place of need. Fifth, there are certain components that Corner Four relationships provide—fuel, self-control, responsibility and ownership, a realistic positivity about failure, stretches and pushes, steps, structure, and process.