The Power of the Other: The startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond-and what to do about it

by Henry Cloud

Talking to a trusted other can often be helpful, but in the VPR scenario, I’m not looking for truth or growth in my conversation with the third party, C. I’m instead looking for that person to rescue me from this mean person (you) and your mean comments, or at least validate my view over yours. I am looking to feel good.