The Power of the Other: The startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond-and what to do about it

by Henry Cloud

If you’re trying to grow something new in your head, in a business, or in a relationship, existing patterns in your internal wiring will continue to dominate until there are new ones. And external structure to build them in time and space and defined activities is the only thing that’ll give you new ones.