The Power of the Other: The startling effect other people have on you, from the boardroom to the bedroom and beyond-and what to do about it

by Henry Cloud

The fangs of the beast are in you, and you’re more concerned with your relational safety than with solving the problem. When your brain detects that an important function in creativity and performance could be better, you want it thinking about how to get better, not how to avoid being rejected, feeling like a failure, or getting yelled at.