There is a vast difference between instinctive reactions and intuitive responses. And while the first may feel easier, the latter is where maturity resides. So, if our goal is to react less and respond more, then we need to identify which situations tend to threaten us. Once we’ve articulated when we’re susceptible, we can work to catch ourselves in the act—so we can instead choose compassion and tenderness. And then we want to do it again the next time we’re triggered—and then again, until ultimately we’ve created new neural pathways with healthy rather than destructive responses. We cannot
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