The Art of Letting Go

by Rania Naim

The more you fight for something that is not meant for you, the more it will fight you.

The beauty of things that are meant for you is that they just happen; against all odds. We are just programmed to complicate life sometimes.

if we let go now, it will feel like a waste of time given the time and effort we invested in it. But nothing is a waste of time, even if it feels like

Some endings are not bad; sometimes they are not even endings, just bridges to new beginnings.

I think part of the reason we hold on to something so tight is because we fear something so great won’t happen twice. —Anonymous

See it for what is, not what you want it to be. —Anonymous The truth is if you reach a point where letting go is the only option, it usually means that this thing or someone already let you go. You are trying to stay in a place where you are not welcome anymore.

this.

I’ve learned that your true constant throughout life is the family that God blessed you with. Never forget who you are, and where you come from.

It’s hard to let go, but it’s harder to be unhappy.

Life. Gets. Better. Sometimes it’s hard to see past tomorrow or next week. It’s easy to get caught up in this moment, and think about how bad it is without realizing that with time, things will start to look up for you again.

I learned that no matter how hard it is, it’s so important to say what you mean, and mean what you say. Not only are you being honest with others, but being honest with yourself.

Not so easy.

But I am not sorry for needing, deserving, and wanting more for myself.

Sometimes it can almost feel like a death when someone who was once so much a part of your life is now no longer in it, and that is very sad, even if you realize that this wasn’t the right relationship for you.

give yourself a week, max, to let it all out, and then try to pick up the pieces.

The best way to combat this feeling is to fill the hole with more love, either from family or friends.

Spend as much time as you can around people who truly love you and care about your happiness and wellbeing.

You are not for everyone. There are poems within you that people will not be able to handle, storms surging through your bones that young men and women will never be able to weather.

You will forever be attached to the deep parts of those you tangle yourself within, though they will never get their hands dirty long enough to uncover the treasure that hums within your dancing pulse.

You are going to be misunderstood in the way you care, for you will love people not for what is obvious within them, but for what is hidden beneath their masks.

you are not for everyone. You are never going to be able to stop yourself from screaming your love from rooftops, you will never be able to play it cool. You

I hope that you do not let the world condemn you for being too loud, too expressive, too soft;

If you don’t trust anything or anyone in life, trust that the things you leave behind allow you to make room for the unexpected.

You will have days where the nostalgia returns and you can’t even breathe because you miss them so much. You will have days where you just want to sit in bed and cry staring at the letters they wrote to you. But, you will also have days where you wake up clear headed and nothing reminds you of them. You will have days where you hear their name, and you don’t even flinch.

The more you realize that it’s okay to feel what you are feeling, the more you heal.

eyes: That person doesn’t want to be with you. They are not here with you. They have made a conscious choice for their own sake to be where they are now. It happens. Simple as that. You don’t need to have the reasons why.

The truth is, when someone doesn’t want you, no reason matters. No amount of fixing could change that and actually, there isn’t anything that needs to be fixed because nothing was wrong or missing in the first place. You have always been wholly you, before or after them,

you have always been wholly you, before or after them.

no one can take anything away from you by not wanting you and you aren’t born to prove yourself to anyone.

they made this decision. They could have stayed. And they didn’t. I’m sorry. I want to hug you right now

So you need to keep burning. You are a star on Earth, and again, I’m sorry if I’m being melodramatic, but hey — someone’s got to remind you. Someone left you and now you’re wondering if you are just ash. Are you the aftermath of a star exploding? No. You are a star reaching new heights.

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Feeling forgotten or neglected by someone you care deeply about can be one of the most soul-crushing & excruciating feelings in the world. Instead of forcing yourself to try, in vain, to forget that person, I want you to free yourself to remember them.

So tell me. What if it happens again? How do I resist your interest, invitation and plan? How could I keep being stupid and making decisions that do me no good? Obviously,

I’m not chill and I don’t want to be casual with the people I like. I want to be all in.

Feel for your pulse. Marvel that every day, your heart beats about 100,000 times. It feels like you think of them 100,000 times. But your heart is still beating and pumping. Even though it feels broken, it’s still going. And so are you.

Romantic love, while beautiful, is only one kind of love, and never enough to fully sustain a person. Take note of all the people you have in your life. All the love you have surrounding.

You’ve been through so many emotional highs and lows in such a short amount of time that you can’t really tell the difference between missing this person and simply missing love.

The instinct will be to run back to them – to do it without thinking, to follow your impulse, to “listen to your heart.” That’s because we’re conditioned to believe that that’s love. We’ve seen it in movies, watched it on tv, heard it in a thousand love songs. But that’s not really love. It’s just a good storyline.

cannot get over this breakup (or reach your reconciliation) by romanticizing your experience.

In feeling helpless, you learn to take care of yourself. In feeling used, you recognize your worth.

In the words of C. Joybell C., we’re all stars that think they’re dying until we realize we’re collapsing into supernovas – to become more beautiful than ever before. It often takes the contrast of pain to completely appreciate what we have,

find wisdom in pain is to realize that the people who become ‘supernovas’ are the ones who acknowledge their pain and then channel it into something better, not people who just acknowledge it and then leave it to stagnate and remain.

That’s what happens when we finally get past hurtful experiences and terrible relationships: we realize we are worth more, and so we choose more.

To fully accept your life – the highs, lows, good, bad – is to be grateful for all of it, and to know that the “good” teaches you well, but the “bad” teaches you better.

There ain’t no way you can hold onto something that wants to go, you understand? You can only love what you got while you got it.—Kate DiCamillo

At some point you will realize that you have done too much for someone, that the only next possible step to do is to stop. Leave them alone. Walk away. It’s not like you’re giving up, and it’s not like you shouldn’t try. It’s just that you have to draw the line of determination from desperation. What is truly yours will eventually be yours, and what is not, no matter how hard you try, will never be.—Unknown

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Why don’t you tell me that ‘if the girl had been worth having she’d have waited for you’? No, sir, the girl really worth having won’t wait for anybody.—F. Scott Fitzgerald

Detach yourself just when you realize you are closer to a heart break.—Unknown

Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future.—Daphne Rose Kingma