The Art of Letting Go

by Rania Naim

What is destined will reach you, even if it be underneath two mountains. What is not destined, will not reach you, even if it be between your two lips. —Proverb

Anything that feels forced or harder than it should be or causes you pain and distress is not meant for you.

The beauty of things that are meant for you is that they just happen; against all odds.

But nothing is a waste of time, even if it feels like it, we are here to make mistakes and learn lessons to grow as individuals, if we keep holding on to toxic situations or toxic people because we’ve already done too much or it’s too late to change things, we are only setting ourselves up for a miserable life.

Some endings are not bad; sometimes they are not even endings, just bridges to new beginnings.

I think part of the reason we hold on to something so tight is because we fear something so great won’t happen twice. —Anonymous

The truth is, you will always find something or someone that makes you feel this way again, new passions will emerge and good things will happen twice and as many times as they want, and will probably be a better and more convenient fit for you.

See it for what is, not what you want it to be. —Anonymous

The mind has a funny of way of tricking us into believing certain things to make it less painful for us, or put it in a way that doesn’t really hurt our pride or break our heart, but we have to look at it the way it is, the way it is being portrayed to us, not the way we want to see it.

if someone let you go, they didn’t really want to stay,

Forgive yourself enough to let go of even the parts of you that dim your light.

I have told myself so many times – he’s the right guy for someone, just not the right guy for me.

You don’t meet people by accident, and that each person who crosses your path brings life lessons to you that God knew you needed.

I’ve learned that your true constant throughout life is the family that God blessed you with.

It’s hard to let go, but it’s harder to be unhappy.

You have to truly love yourself, inside and out, before you can be in a successful relationship.

It’s important to make smart decisions, that back up your emotional feelings.

My experience has helped me see how much power there is in being alone. I took some time to reflect on my choices.

But really, I’m so thankful it didn’t work out between us. It worked out just great for me.

They say time heals, and in some ways this is true, but it takes more than time.

Here is something to keep in mind about pain: it doesn’t go away just because it goes unacknowledged.

Whatever it is you’re feeling, feel it.

It’s the loss of potential, the loss of what could have been.

Do some things just for you.

You will never recognize the right guy when he comes along if you’re still stuck on thoughts of the wrong guys.

You will heal, you will feel again, and you will find love, the right kind of love that will make you wonder how you ever mistook the wrong kind for the real thing.

Some people are meant to be in your life, you just won’t and can’t immediately know if they are meant to be in your life forever,

Something you didn’t think you’d get to hold onto but you suddenly don’t want to let go. You know the ones.

Maybe it’s those maybes that keep us alive.

That no matter how far we run or stray or falter, a different version of ourselves lives on inside of every person we have ever fallen half in love with.

Life is imperfect. It’s beautiful and complicated and burdensome and messy. And you are a part of it, a part that grows and changes and laughs and loves and gets broken and comes back together.

There is no rewind, but you can always restart, let go.

If you don’t like that direction, turn. Don’t turn back. Don’t turn around. Just turn. Right. Left. Diagonal. Cut across the grass. Take a back road.

Life is the longest thing we’ll ever do, but it also goes by quick.

This is me accepting that you’re leaving. It’s my acknowledgment that there’s no further argument to make, no angle left to take, no plea or bargain I could wager that could get you to change your mind and stay.

This is the realization that missing you is going to become a second heartbeat in my body, strong and thrumming inside of every place where you lingered and then left.

Knowing that someday I will not think of love as a feeling that’s exclusive to you and I, as crazy as that seems to me right now. That eventually I’ll meet someone new – someone who loves the foods you hate and laughs at things you don’t find funny and appreciates the parts of me that you once left undiscovered.

That someday I’m going to have a wedding and that you will not be there. That the ring that gets slipped on my finger will be picked out by somebody else

This is my acceptance of the finite absurdity of knowing that I’m someday going to promise my life to someone who is not you and that I may even be happy to do so. That one day I’ll see changes and beginnings in a way I never saw them with you.

That I am not going to be there to toast to your 50th birthday or cheers to your timely promotion or crawl in beside you on the nights when the world’s weight is too heavy to bear. That your losses and gains will not be lined up with mine. That someday when you hold your first-born child in your arms, it’s not going to be me who placed her there.

This is me knowing that I have to let you go. That no matter how much I love you or how hard we work at this or how badly we both want each other to be happy, we are never going to be the right partners for each other.

sometimes the best thing you can do for someone you love is to let them go – to do more, feel more, be more than the person they ever could ever have become by your side.

This is my parting, my reluctance, my heartache and my final gift to you. This is me letting you go.

We hold on tightly to things because it is very easy to form habits. And our habits – whether they are our thoughts, words, or actions – are not easy to break.

We lose things all the time – “the Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away,”

Tighter grips on the things that aren’t meant for us, close us to life.

If you don’t trust anything or anyone in life, trust that the things you leave behind allow you to make room for the unexpected.

the unexpected paths we end up taking, often end up feeling like the place we are exactly meant to be.

We are only hurting ourselves more by continuing to ignore our hurt.

And seriously, what’s good in knowing? The truth is, when someone doesn’t want you, no reason matters.