The restoration of a bond of mutuality with God has enormous power to heal toxic shame. Toxic shame is a disorder of the will. As disabled, the will becomes grandiose. As shame-based people get entrenched in their cover-ups, they become more shameless. They hide their mistakes with perfectionism, control, blame, criticism, contempt, etc. To be shameless is to play God. This grandiose God-playing is a spiritual disaster. It is spiritual bankruptcy. Steps Two and Three reconnect the essential bond of dependence in man with a Higher Power.
