As I write, I think of the daughter of a minister I counseled. She was shame-based to the core. She thought of herself as the Whore of Babylon. She had been abandoned by her shame-based, self-righteous minister father. He was so busy saving souls and being Mr. Wonderful that he had no time for her. I remember being at a conference years later and seeing this man and his obese wife. He was still pompous and passive-aggressive. Such men are dangerous. They hide their shame with patronizing self-righteousness, and they transfer it to their children and disciples.
