Does she dwell on her physical ailments, personal traumas, or family woes? Now, in the course of dating and getting to know each other, you will share your personal histories, and most personal histories do include some painful things. But the question is, does she derive her identity from her trauma? Does she seem to relish the role of being a victim, or does she talk about what she’s learned from past mistakes, heartaches, or traumas? There’s a big difference between the two. If she feels that everyone in her life has let her down, then you could be the next name on that list.
