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September 5 - October 11, 2018
When a woman says, “Do I look fat in this dress?” what she’s really saying is “Pay attention to how I look and affirm that you find me attractive.”
THE ABC FORMULA A = ACTION—Every situation begins with an action.
B = BELIEF—Every action elicits a belief about the action. C = CONSEQUENCE—Based on the belief, a consequence, or feeling, follows.
Know that you are responsible for not only your intentions but also the impact of your behavior. Your intentions can be noble and still have a disastrous impact.
Understand the difference between an emotional language and a logical language.
No big surprise here. Women are more relational than men, and have highly integrated left/right brains, and men have a more compartmentalized brain with greater abilities in focused tasks. When translated into the bedroom, these differences show up in the University of Pennsylvania survey. TOP FIVE SEXUAL DESIRES OF MEN 1. More frequent sex 2. To be wanted/adored 3. Visual stimulation 4. Variety and playfulness 5. Oral sex TOP FIVE SEXUAL DESIRES OF WOMEN 1. Exclusivity 2. Safety 3. Connection 4. Foreplay 5. Romance
Men are like vending machines: Drop in a quarter and get your goodies. Women are like pull-starter lawn mowers: You have to rev her up a bit to get her going.
To Raise Happy Kids, Put Your Marriage First,
Look into this
God-Spouse-Kids-Work hierarchy.
Leftover anger can metastasize into a bitter, silent cancer that makes a healthy relationship almost impossible.
The Marriage Boot Camp definition of forgiveness: Forgiveness is acknowledging that someone has caused you harm, resulting in bitterness that continues to this day, and then choosing to release that person from any form of payment or revenge, now and forevermore.
