A sign of an anxiously attached person is an intolerance of, and dramatic reaction to, ambiguous situations – like a silence, a delay or a non-committal remark. These are quickly interpreted in negative ways, as insults or malevolent attacks. For the anxiously attached, any minor slight, hasty word or oversight can be experienced as an intense threat, looming as a harbinger of the break-up of a relationship. More objective explanations slip out of reach. Inside, anxiously attached people often feel as if they were fighting for their lives – though they are typically unable to explain their
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