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July 11, 2019
Consciously or unconsciously, we start to put the brakes on our happiness. But when we slow down our enthusiasm and happiness, we also slow down our vitality and motivation. Little by little, our life gets messy. We get tired, demotivated, and start to postpone things.
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The way you treat yourself sets the standard
What really affects our lives is our attitude towards ourselves. I believe that if we want to achieve positive changes in our lives, we have to modify the way we treat ourselves. We must behave towards ourselves and our life with love and respect.
We must learn to make choices that are in harmony with our natural truth which is always oriented towards more love, joy, and self-awareness.
The most essential step to getting unstuck is the decision to treat yourself with love, respect, and compassion, so that it becomes your default attitude towards yourself and your life.
if you don’t treat yourself with love and respect, it’s almost impossible genuinely respect or love other people.
I rather believe that pain and discomfort happen because our innate joy, love, creativity, and so on, are hindered in their “growth.” That is to say, we cannot, or don’t dare to step into the full expression of who we are, and therefore, we stand still instead of expanding our love, joy, and creativity.
the element in “growth” is restricted in its natural expansion. This is what in reality causes the pain.
if we don’t treat ourselves and our life with respect, we dampen our growth, because by disrespect, we dampen the flow (and therefore the growth) of our inner joy and creativity. That’s how we lose our momentum.
The origin of the word “decide” is “to cut off,” “to kill.” Translated freely, and applying it to our context here, “decide” means “cut yourself off” from the situation that you want to leave behind, and “kill” every fear, doubt, false belief, or reaction that doesn’t serve you.
“Determination” can be defined as “set limits to.”
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you now need to set new boundaries built on self-respect, joy, and equality.
you are letting go of something without knowing what you’ll get in exchange.
True compassion can be expressed only if there’s equality.
Having respect and compassion puts you both in the state of equality, i.e. no one of you is better or worse than the other.
You need your objectivity, because when you want gain clarity and awareness, you must look at things from an objective point of view.
“Get your stuff done for 80%. As long it’s 80% correct, that’s good enough. You can always perfect it later.” And guess what? Aiming for 80% often gives a better result, because you are more relaxed than when you strive for perfection, so you make fewer mistakes.
“commitment” is about giving your full focus and dedication to things that enhance your well-being, and bring you closer to your goal.
When you decide to love yourself and respect your needs, you automatically commit to yourself. You then feel supported from within which gives you wings.
The shortcut to healing of the past is to change how you treat yourself now. When you stop neglecting yourself in the now, the past tends to heal itself.
Decide to move on. Sometimes, a situation can be completed even if it’s not resolved. It’s what it is. Surrender to it.
for your brain the past, present, or future are all the same. You can make changes to your past by changing your emotional reaction in the now, because concerning the perception of your past, it’s your present emotional reaction that counts.
The objective is to get the feeling
Sometimes you cannot commit or trust because you cannot let go of a situation.
The solution is to either give unconditionally without expecting anything in return, or to stop it. You must make clear exchange agreements and stick to them.
continuing to do things that only bring you frustration may end up costing you more.
To make a constructive exchange (have a constructive relationship), it must be loving and respectful for you, and give you joy. It must uplift you. When it doesn’t, it will cost you joy, time, money, and energy. It also will put you (and others) down.
unequal.
check your LJR (is it loving, joyful, respectful towards me?)
