The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want to Do (A No F*cks Given Guide Book 1)

by Sarah Knight

If you continue on your current path, then at the end of each day, or week, or month, you’re bound to find yourself scraping the bottom of your own personal fuck barrel—which is when you’ll realize that all those fucks you gave away were for the benefit of everyone but YOU.

In my experience, people who don’t give a fuck fall into one of three categories: Children Assholes The Enlightened

There are two reasons you tend to give a fuck about what other people think: one, because you don’t want to be a bad person, and two, because you don’t want to look like a bad person.

You can sidestep the prospect of hurt feelings entirely when you view your conflict through the lens of simple, emotionless opinion.

But if you’ve done nothing to be sorry about, you can (a) stop feeling sorry and (b) stop telling people you are!

I suggest you implement a budget for your fucks.

Hey, if somebody has to tell them to fuck off, it might as well be you.

As Albert Einstein once said, “If I had an hour to solve a problem I’d spend 55 minutes thinking about the problem and 5 minutes thinking about solutions.”

For now, remember that you should only give a fuck about things you can control, and no fucks about things you can’t.

tai chi, the general principle of which is to yield to an incoming attack rather than meet it with opposing force. In doing so, you absorb your opponent’s energy and redirect it back at her so that she is essentially vanquished by her own hand.

a certain percentage of your fucks go straight to Family.

Once you feel guilty, you have already failed at not giving a fuck.

It is a truth universally acknowledged that family members tend to think other family members have to give a fuck about their lives just because they share DNA.

One of the central tenets of fuck-giving is choice over obligation. You want to be able to choose how to spend your time, energy, and money so that you maximize the enjoyment of any given relationship, task, product, or event. Things you can control vs. things you can’t. And as we all know, you don’t get to choose your family. So at the very least, you should get to choose how and why you interact with them.

Remember: you are a part of your family, and you deserve to be happy too.

Shame is lonely and isolating, and guilt is a direct result of shame.

It is important not to confuse this unfamiliar feeling of freedom with feelings of regret or shame.

Not hurting people’s feelings and not getting caught in a lie is the purest form of NotSorry. You have nothing to agonize over or apologize for.

The good news is, if you’re feeling that “ick” factor, it means you’re not an asshole. They never get the jitters.

the goal of the NotSorry Method is not actually to get to #ZeroFucks (an amusing if impractical hashtag). It’s to pare away the fucks that don’t bring you joy, paving the way for the fucks that do.

By putting your fucks in order, casting out those that annoy, and identifying the people and things that bring you the most pleasure and satisfaction, you’re living your best life.

A fuck not given is something gained

Your fucks affect your body, mind, and soul

Rather than letting it consume you like a lady praying mantis consumes her lover after sex, just try… not giving a fuck. Say to yourself, It’s just not worth it, and move on.

but you needn’t get to the end of your rope only to hang yourself with it.