The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F*ck: How to Stop Spending Time You Don't Have with People You Don't Like Doing Things You Don't Want to Do (A No F*cks Given Guide Book 1)

by Sarah Knight

the NotSorry Method.

1. Deciding what you don’t give a fuck about 2. Not giving a fuck about those things

In fact, once you begin implementing NotSorry, you’ll never want or need to give an extraneous fuck ever again.

In this book, you will learn: • Why giving a fuck about what other people think is your worst enemy—and how to stop doing it • How to sort your fucks into categories for ease in identifying annoy vs. joy • Simple criteria for whether or not you should give a fuck (e.g., “Does this affect anyone other than me?”) • The keys to not giving a fuck without being an asshole • The importance of making (and sticking to) a Fuck Budget • How mastering the art of giving fewer, better fucks can transform your life • And much, much more!

Just think about how much better your life would be if you could say no to things you really don’t give a fuck about and have more time, energy, and money to say yes to the things you do.

if you follow my NotSorry Method for not giving a fuck, your spirit will be lighter, your calendar will be clearer, and your time and energy will be spent on only the things and people you enjoy.

Ask yourself the following question: Am I stressed out, overbooked, and/or underwhelmed by life? If the answer is yes to any of these, then pause for a moment to ask yourself: Why?

the only way to change your life for the better is to stop giving so fucking many of them.

You may not realize it, but the number of fucks you personally have to give is a finite and precious commodity.

Give too many, and you run out—it’s like getting to zero in your bank account—which results in your feeling anxious, stressed out, and desperate.

let’s talk about when you should give a fuck.

You should give a fuck if something—be

does not annoy and does bri...

Most people give away their fucks without much thought. Feelings of guilt, obligation, or anxiety cause them to behave in a manner that, while least objectionable to other people, is often detrimental to their own levels of annoy vs. joy.

Instead of feeling guilty, obligated, and anxious, wouldn’t you rather feel empowered, benevolent, and carefree?

So stop saying yes right away to please others and, instead, take a moment to question not only whether you give a fuck

about the matter at hand but whether it deserves a fuck

given to it as a line item on your...

If you continue on your current path, then at the end of each day, or week, or month, you’re bound to find yourself scraping the bottom of your own personal fuck barrel—which is when you’ll realize that all those fucks you gave away were for the benefit of everyone but YOU.

Not giving a fuck means taking care of yourself first—like

like affixing your own oxygen mask before helping others.

Not giving a fuck means allowing yours...

I don’t want to. I don’t have time. I ca...

Not giving a fuck—crucially—means releasing yourself from the worry, anxiety, fear, and guilt...

allowing you to stop spending time you don’t have with people you don’t like doing th...

Not giving a fuck means reducing m...

In my experience, people who don’t give a fuck fall into one of three categories: Children Assholes The Enlightened

They don’t give a fuck because they don’t have to.

Assholes don’t give a fuck because they are genetically predisposed to get what they want no matter who they have to offend, step on, or—yes—fuck over along the way.

10 things assholes don’t give a fuck about 1. Other people’s personal space 2. Making you wait 3. Talking in the train’s quiet car 4. Littering 5. Tipping appropriately 6. Causing gross smells in confined areas 7. Using turn signals properly 8. Blocking the escalator 9. Cleaning up after their pets 10. Being perceived as assholes

You can attain enlightenment without turning into an asshole.

At the heart of the NotSorry Method is “not being an asshole.”

Honesty and politeness: A dynamic duo

Please listen when I say that the shame and guilt you feel when you’re trying so hard to not give a fuck? It’s usually not because you are wrong to not give that fuck. It’s because you’re worried about what other people might think about your decision. And guess what?

You have no control over what other people think.

When it comes to how your fuck-giving affects other people, all you can control is your behavior with regard to their feelings, not their opinions.

There are two reasons you tend to give a fuck about what other people think: one, because you don’t want to be a bad person, and two, because you don’t want to look like a bad person.

As humans, we have every right to politely disagree with or not share someone else’s opinion.

You can sidestep the prospect of hurt feelings entirely when you view your conflict through the lens of simple, emotionless opinion.

If your fuck-giving actively affects someone else

be honest and polite about your decision, try to make it about a difference of opinion, and 99 percent of the time, all will be well.

But if your fuck-giving affects you and only you

then why should you care about what other...

It may take a little getting used to, but you must stop giving a fuck about what other people think.

I suggest you implement a budget for your fucks.

Of course, not everything is about money.

Too often, we allocate our fucks without a goal in sight.

In order to maximize your potential for happiness, you need to consider outcomes before committing to giving your fucks. Your time, energy, and/or money spent should result in greater joy for you.

The life-changing magic of not giving a fuck is all about prioritizing. Joy over annoy. Choice over obligation. Opinions vs. feelings. Sticking to a budget. Eyes on the prize.

I’m telling you, the moment you decide to stop giving a fuck is the moment you start living your best life.