As creatures, we imagine a homogeneity in other groups that we know not to be there in our own. Yet in our own groups of family and colleagues and circles of friends, there are people we admire and people we dislike, people we adore and people who drive us crazy. We find ways, if we can, to stay in relationship—to find out what love can mean with this person at this moment, and a year later, and ten years later.
