At this point, I stumbled on research in the area of psychological assurance and related issues that has since changed my life. Falling under the general rubric of the “cognitive” or “cognitive-behavioral method,” the central idea is that what we tell ourselves, think, and do will determine how we feel, as well as our subsequent actions. Further, the most painful things in life are not generally what occurs to us but what we think and articulate to ourselves about those occurrences. Thus, it is not so much the events in our lives but rather how we download and respond to them that determines
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