When we offhandedly banish blame from our awareness, we never discover its tremendous value as an instinct. Blame is a fundamental part of saying no, setting limits, protesting unfairness, and defending our boundaries. We will never feel safe if we cannot make blaming statements like: “Stop it, you’re hurting me!” “Don’t call me names!” and “No, you cannot take that – it belongs to me!” Such reflexive blame is a vital contribution from the feeling nature to the instinct of self-protection.
