You have surely heard that happiness comes from unselfishly devoting yourself to others. It sounds nice, but your brain is motivated by the expectation of rewards. If you devote yourself to others, you are expecting a reward from doing that, and if the reward doesn’t come, you feel bad. You can end up feeling bad a lot, and you won’t even know why if you don’t acknowledge your expectations of reward. You can end up adding bitterness to the world even as you intended to add good. So you could actually help the world by being real about your natural “selfish” urges. Many people refuse to do
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