You can distract yourself from that do-something feeling by focusing more intently on your goal. You may tell yourself you can’t stop until you “get a break” or “get it right.” You can imagine how good it will feel. But if you do reach that important milestone, the feeling doesn’t last. All too soon, your cortisol is triggered in one way or another. You respond in the only way you know how: zooming in on another goal. People often say they are forced to do this by “our society.” They don’t see how they are choosing it, even though they can see that in others. The urge to “make something of
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