We all end up with quirky circuits like mine because we build on the connections that are already there. Our happy chemicals pathways feel important so it’s hard to realize that they are just accidents. Anything that turns on your happy chemicals feels precious, which can lead to behaviors that are hard to make sense of. It can even lead to behaviors that are destructive. Though you can’t just delete an old circuit, you can connect it in new ways that are better suited to your present reality. It won’t happen effortlessly the way it did when you were young. But repetition and emotion can make
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