Our shame attendant wants us to think, feel, sense and image that we are not enough, just as Gavin’s had, and just as evil did with Adam and Eve so long ago. It will tempt us to tell a story in which we are on the brink of abandonment and must do everything we can—on our own—to prevent that from happening. It will seek to divide and conquer our sensations, images, feelings, thoughts and behaviors from one another, leaving us in a disintegrated heap. It will reinforce itself by allowing us to feel ashamed for feeling shame in the first place. It will convince us that to trust others with our
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