He came to see how shame had the potential to taint virtually any moment of his storytelling process. When it joins us at early ages, and through the subtlety of nonverbal and verbal interactions, it becomes like a virus that spreads early and often until it infects the entire body. This does not mean that every single thought or image is a product of shame. However, it does reflect that shame does not limit itself to obvious parts of our story. It is not only the voice of our coach telling us we are the worst free-throw shooter she has ever seen. It is not restricted to the memory of the
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