the dark side of being alone—really alone: isolated, deserted, forgotten, dismissed, scorned, pushed out, abandoned—is a potential that God recognized. And we will soon see how shame is deeply committed to exploiting the machinery of attachment in creating states of aloneness within us and between us, and most substantially between us and God. But just as this mind–brain–relational triad can be disintegrated by shame, so also are relationships, through earned secure attachment (an echo of God coming to us embodied in Jesus), the means by which shame is regulated and healed.
