“How did I give my power away in this relationship, and what can I do to reclaim it?” “How do I let myself down in ways that are similar to how I feel let down by my former partner?” “Where was I pulling on my former partner to take care of me in ways I was refusing to take care of myself? What has this cost us both?” “What were the lies I was telling myself in order to stay in the relationship?” “How does it work for me to have chosen someone so clearly unavailable?” “What disappointing story from my past is being repeated here, and how have I behaved in way(s) that covertly re-created it?”
