Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After

by Katherine Woodward Thomas

“How can I relate to myself in way(s) that would demonstrate the truth of my value, power, and worthiness to love and be loved? What new skills and/or capacities might I need to develop to show up this way?” For example: “I can begin paying attention to my own feelings and needs before automatically tending to the feelings and needs of others. The skill I would need to learn is to better gauge what my feelings and needs are.” “How can I relate to others in way(s) that demonstrate the truth of my value, power, and worthiness to love and be loved? What new skills and/or capacities might I need to develop to show up this way?” For example: “I can take the risk to share my authentic feelings and needs with others so that I can discover who cares about me, and who doesn’t, and to know which relationships to continue to invest myself in. The capacities I’d need to grow are (1) the ability to tolerate being more vulnerable and (2) expanding my willingness to receive.”