Displaying profound interest is an ongoing process that requires some effort. The first step is to cultivate the ability to pay attention. As any experienced meditator knows, the capacity for sustained attention will fluctuate. Similarly, your capacity to be profoundly interested in your partner or partners will vary from time to time and situation to situation. It would be impossible, and undesirable, to be profoundly interested all the time and during every interaction. As with meditation, the fluctuations are to be expected; the value lies in making the effort and communicating your
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