This is key, I see that "Life-alienating Communication" is the opposite of nonviolent communication in NVC. So he's not actually equating words with violence. And, further evidence that this interpretation of him is right, the book says earlier that NVC is referring to Gandhi's description of a state of nonviolence as ~natural compassion
And NVC can be called CC, Compassionate Communication. I think in today's world of microaggressions etc., he would have switched the whole thing to CC.
