does it really matter if your ex was a psychopath, a sociopath, a narcissist, or a garden-variety jerk? The label doesn’t make your feelings any more or less valid. Your feelings are absolutes.
It doesn't matter what a person is: BPD, NPD, etc, the harm is done. Unfortunately we are toxic, we can't change according to this book; I don't like this one bit, I want to change, I can't stand being this way, I may have BPD but I don't want anyone saying i have NPD due to not seeking Therapy because I'm happy the way I am which I'm not. I have remorse for giving her emotional pain, I can't sleep at night and live with my conscience. I ruminate on the problem and it makes me sick in the stomach the way I became. 1-20-23 Edit: this I read when I was undiagnosed and untreated, while there may be similarities within psychopathy and BPD, there are a lot of many differences. I've dealt in the past with blackouts, Impulsivity and other symptoms that I felt I could relate to psychopathy. Nevertheless, I don't have a degree in psychology to be able to determine all the traits I posses, nor I would be able to openly talk about what people with BPD are when it comes to toxicity traits. I used to talk about it on a forum just to be shunned out by the BPD community. Then in 2021 I started seeing posts from people with BPD who explain"that pwBPD can be toxic, specially undiagnosed. Its exactly what I was saying. I started seeing how they got good feedback and upvotes on their posts. They were not being stigmatized like the way those made me feel. I think that's why I decided not to write anymore about BPD, because I did not want to get stigmatized. All I can say is that everyone with BPD is different, there are four types and there can be 256 adaptations, so everyone is going to act differently. And yes, I know this book is not about pwBPD (people with Borderline personality disorder) but it mentions us. That's all, going to sleep, just wanted to put it out there my thoughts and the update on why I felt so compelled to write on my Kindle and share the highlighted notes of this book. I honestly did not had anyone to talk to and I still had not have an assigned therapist. Therapy is necessary. I have an appointment coming up in 5 days. Take care.
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