Psychopath Free: Recovering from Emotionally Abusive Relationships With Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other Toxic People

by Jackson MacKenzie

PsychopathFree.com,

I'm reading the book, I have to check out the website.

I cannot fix a toxic relationship (because toxic people cannot change),

This is a great book, bein toxic I want to change but it says here otherwise.

ignore evidence when confronted with it.

1st red flag. Blaming, something I did without thinking because I didn't think she love me. You cant make anyone love you nor I shouldn't blame her for my loss of confidence and low self-esteem.

Focuses on your mistakes and ignores their own.

I focused on her positively and relatively as well, I looked at my flaws and talked about mikne as well, I am both Quiet BPD and external BPD as well with Narcissistic traits, something I shouldn't have done was look at her flaws and make accusations of how it seemed she treated me which I couldn't get ijn my head that's how introverts are, she might be an INFP which is nothing bad thats how they cope with emotions.

You find yourself explaining the basic elements of human respect to a full-grown man or woman. Normal people understand fundamental concepts like honesty and kindness. Psychopaths often appear to be childlike and innocent, but don’t let this mask fool you. No adult should need to be told how he or she is making other people feel.

I guess BPD & other Mental Illnesses are all the same here. I do wish sometimes to be reminded how my tone or decision is going to make people vanish from my life due to the way I have made them feel, this goes on a paternal kind of way not thinking correctly and then why bother feel bad when they are no longer here, no way of apologizing because its too late.

You probably once considered yourself to be an exceptionally easygoing person, but an encounter with a psychopath will (temporarily) turn that notion upside down.

My ex shut down and shut her doors due to my behavior.

No matter what they do, they always seem to have a fan club cheering for them. The psychopath uses these people for money, resources, and attention—but the fan club won’t notice, because this person strategically distracts them with shallow praise. Psychopaths are able to maintain superficial friendships far longer than relationships.

This is where BPD differs & how nothing will make you feel better, abandoned.

You fear that any fight could be your last. Normal couples argue to resolve issues, but psychopaths make it clear that negative conversations will jeopardize the relationship, especially ones regarding their behavior. Any of your attempts to improve communication will typically result in the silent treatment. You apologize and forgive quickly, otherwise you know they’ll lose interest in you.

Fear of abandonment shouldn't be considered a psychopath like this book states

They withhold attention and undermine your self-esteem. After once showering you with nonstop attention and admiration, they suddenly seem completely bored by you. They treat you with silence and become very annoyed that you’re interested in continuing the passionate relationship that they created. You begin to feel like a chore to them. They

I never did this. I know I was and Im toxic but I always tried to give her attention. I never discarded her or though of being superior. This book its hard to read from my end. I have to try it with a grain of salt and not overthink like itis dircted to me, that is being disassociating a sign not of only BPD but pychoses. Im reading it worried of the fires from Geyserville Peak reaching here as the bad fires of 10-2017. I am woried fir my ex if they do a power shutoff, does she have flashlights and emergency kit? I bought he all thatmonths ago I havent given her any of it for being in no contact is her decision wich I totally agree to it. Its very windy this morning at 3:56 am on October 27, 2019, a fire could srart anywhere. I hope she is ok. Its hard to be lonely and feeling emotionally abusive at the same time.

When devaluing, they use these comparisons to make you feel jealous and inferior.

I recognize I have been this way and I hate it. I hate been toxic! #toxicity

Developing your intuition is a personal process, but I would leave you with this: the world is mostly full of good people, and you don’t want to miss out on that because you’ve been hurt. Spend some time getting in touch with your feelings. Keep tweaking until you find a comfortable balance between awareness and trust. Look within and understand why you felt the way you did when you were with your abusive partner and how you felt before you met them. You will discover that many old relationships may need revisiting. And as you begin to abandon toxic patterns, healthier ones will inevitably appear in their place.

Psychopaths are parasitic, emotionally stunted, and incapable of change. Once this individual is gone from your life, you will find that everything begins to make sense again. The chaos dissipates and your sanity returns. Things will be normal once again.

I am toxic. I don't want to be this way. I want to change; just like Dave Ramsey said you can't expect different results when you keep doing the same stuff.

It takes a long time to start building healthier relationships. It takes breaking old habits, forming new ones, developing your intuition, and finally coming to understand what it is that you want from this world.

I must do this even though I've been Toxic. I feel this book can help.

Their inappropriate and dishonest actions never actually match up with their promising words, causing an overwhelming cognitive dissonance in the people who trust them.

This book states Toxic people can't change, I want to try with the help of Therapy.

You will find that decent, humble human beings aren’t trying to tell you who they are and what they can do for you. They simply show it through consistent love and kindness.

Shoul I restraint of talking about my past & soley focus on helping others?

does it really matter if your ex was a psychopath, a sociopath, a narcissist, or a garden-variety jerk? The label doesn’t make your feelings any more or less valid. Your feelings are absolutes.

It doesn't matter what a person is: BPD, NPD, etc, the harm is done. Unfortunately we are toxic, we can't change according to this book; I don't like this one bit, I want to change, I can't stand being this way, I may have BPD but I don't want anyone saying i have NPD due to not seeking Therapy because I'm happy the way I am which I'm not. I have remorse for giving her emotional pain, I can't sleep at night and live with my conscience. I ruminate on the problem and it makes me sick in the stomach the way I became. 1-20-23 Edit: this I read when I was undiagnosed and untreated, while there may be similarities within psychopathy and BPD, there are a lot of many differences. I've dealt in the past with blackouts, Impulsivity and other symptoms that I felt I could relate to psychopathy. Nevertheless, I don't have a degree in psychology to be able to determine all the traits I posses, nor I would be able to openly talk about what people with BPD are when it comes to toxicity traits. I used to talk about it on a forum just to be shunned out by the BPD community. Then in 2021 I started seeing posts from people with BPD who explain"that pwBPD can be toxic, specially undiagnosed. Its exactly what I was saying. I started seeing how they got good feedback and upvotes on their posts. They were not being stigmatized like the way those made me feel. I think that's why I decided not to write anymore about BPD, because I did not want to get stigmatized. All I can say is that everyone with BPD is different, there are four types and there can be 256 adaptations, so everyone is going to act differently. And yes, I know this book is not about pwBPD (people with Borderline personality disorder) but it mentions us. That's all, going to sleep, just wanted to put it out there my thoughts and the update on why I felt so compelled to write on my Kindle and share the highlighted notes of this book. I honestly did not had anyone to talk to and I still had not have an assigned therapist. Therapy is necessary. I have an appointment coming up in 5 days. Take care. edi

you were groomed and idealized. You were tricked into falling in love—the strongest of all human bonds—so

I don't know how I could feel such a strong connection towards her knowing her so little. She is such a strong, independent, she has empathy about others, has charisma, what is not to like about her. How could I ever think I could be with her, or even date her, perhaps she was into me more than an acquaintance or coworker because that's how we met. I have had problems since childhood just like her and everyone else. For some people it bothers them but makes them stronger, some of us choose to be victims of our own nightmares as I ask myself how could I ever think of dating anyone throughout my life. I never had self worth as a person, I never grew up, I just kept hating myself more and more every year that passed by, I could not deny it, I just let it be as a part of me, becoming an entity of its own and coming out when I was feeling down to bring me down even harder. I should have got professional help ever since the beginning after the abuse. I am very sorry to have felt a connection with her, my last girlfriend, a woman that deserved respect, an emotional support right by her side not just some times and others she probably did not know who she was with, she deserved love, friendship. Why could I not provide her with all these feelings I fell I wanted to give her, others have, other men were men enough to give her that and more. I don't know why and I could not see that my thoughts were delusional. How I could I not see that I had a problem, how could I feel so much intense love for a person when I felt so much hatred inside? Self loathing is something I regret having by the bedside every night. I did not want to be manipulative or controlling, this was not me, my thoughts became unclear and my insecurities blinded my mind making me believe that she could have been cheating on me, afterall how could she not, she did not look happy. The reality is how could anyone be content be in a relationship that at one moment it could have been fun, being adorned with love and attention and the next being sad or confused why they felt fear, that is not a normal relationship, anyone would try to get love else where, why couldn't I see the big picture. How could anyone like her ever try to talk to the person she was living and not be afraid of his anger. I talk in a third person view because I feel like I am like Dr. Jekyll and Hyde, I hate the way I became. If these were the days of guillotine I would be the first volunteer not because I was a coward, a parasite and emotional abuser to this woman I thought I loved but how could I, that is not love. Love is acceptance, love does not judge, love does not cause fear and the feeling of dying inside. I feel like a dysfunctional medmber of society, how can I make up for my behavior? Apologies are not welcome to her or anyone in her life, I feel so much remorse to have given her one of the worst, I am sure the worst relationships she have experienced. There's nothing in this world I could do or give her to revert the pain I have caused her. The harm is done and I feel so awful to have invaded her privacy to hear only a small part of how she felt about me, I flee the apartment because how I felt about myself. Yes I am a monster, I should be decapitated, burned alive or the slowest of deaths possible. I don't how I can live with myself. Everyday is a nightmare to live. I did not discarded my girlfriend , I never wanted to do that, I felt she needed to be alone and I could not bare to be ok living with her how sad she felt and miserable, the truth is that I wanted to escape, escape from my own body. Anything I do, anywhere I go I will live with this torment, I cannot live with myself realizing now and wishing to make a change to be a good man right by her side, a man that coulf fulfill all his desires to live the best life he could be with this great woman as her.

Toxic people condition us to ignore our intuition, and we must learn to trust it again. Instead of judging outwardly, we need to perceive inwardly. When we start focusing on our own feelings, this is where the healing begins.

This goes for everyone who has been a victim in a toxic relationship. This is the way I see it as the best way to walking away because you matter, the best way to move on and heal. hen you follow your intuition it's when yo give yourselves a chance to grow. You'll see that the most important after your toxic partner has fled, you are most important. Whatever the reason he or she left it does no matter see it as a break t breathe and realize that is you who you need to focus on. If your intuition is telling you that he or she will comeback or if is telling to get out, change the locks, get a retraining order, go stay at your relative's or best friend's house then do it. What is important is your safety and wellness. Take the necessary measures I am not saying all toxic partners are violent or that they'll comeback, I know I didn't because I felt broken, I felt I was a disturbing her peace and I did not let her grow as a person so I left to give her space, not to discard her, that was not my idea. It worked out for her, it gave her the time to think about what was best for her and that is to not be in a toxic relationship that did not serve her. Follow your intuition, seek professional help, work on yourself, do the things you weren't able to do before and live a happy life, make your life happy again, get that clarity and a sense of peace back in your life. Do it for you, in the end this will be the best way to defeat your abuser. Take care.

Something beyond your intuition. So this is where I’d like to introduce the idea of a Constant. Your Constant will comfort and protect you throughout this book, and for the rest of your life.

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It was never about brainwashing or mirroring her emotions. My feelings were real but the tthing I couldn't dea was not knowing how she felt because she had been emotionally abused on another reltonship that led me to obsession. She was only trying to protect herself.

You Are Beautiful

I remember calling her beautiful & other cute names but it wasn only obsession

Your body goes through changes as your confidence rises with their every word. You spend more and more time improving your appearance to keep them impressed.

Psychopaths ar able to make a woman feel this way? BPD like me I'm not jealous. Wait? Did I actually wrote that? What a piece of BS. I was one of the most toxic males, my insecurities are not my excuse, but yes I became extremely jealous. Revision on this note 11-28-20 5:24 a.m. Btw some idikot playing with fireworks.

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