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There is always an excuse for everything, even things that don’t require excusing. They make up lies faster than you can question them.
Accuses you of feeling emotions that they are intentionally provoking.
After once showering you with nonstop attention and admiration, they suddenly seem completely bored by you.
You start to notice that their personality just doesn’t add up—that the person you fell in love with doesn’t actually seem to exist.
You apologize and cry more than you ever have in your life. You barely sleep, and you wake up every morning feeling anxious and unhinged. You have no idea what happened to your old relaxed, fun, easygoing self.
you will stop asking “Do they like me?” and start asking “Do I like them?”
Psychopaths never truly feel the things they display. They’re observing you, mirroring your every emotion, and pretending to ride this high with you.
Within a matter of weeks, the two of you will have your own set of inside jokes, pet names, and cute songs.
A psychopath’s perfect target is idealistic, forgiving, generous, and romantic.
If you look back at the early stages of your relationship, you will likely remember small warning signs that you tried to ignore—signs that just didn’t fit in with the whole “nice person” act.
The psychopath strips you of your dignity by taking back everything they once pretended to feel during the idealization period.
trying to reestablish the perfect dream from the beginning of your relationship. But their responses now feel hollow at best.
Psychopaths become bored very easily, and the idealization is only fun until they have you hooked. Once that happens, these strengths of yours become vulnerabilities that they use against you. They begin to inject as much drama into the relationship as they possibly can, throwing you into impossible situations and then judging you for reacting to them.
Perhaps you began to feel needy and clingy during the relationship with the psychopath. Again, it’s all manufactured. Who was the one responsible for initiating constant conversation and attention in the first place? It was them. Once they’re bored, they will start to lash out at you for trying to continue practices that they initiated.
You think to yourself, “If they can just understand why I’m hurt, then they’ll stop doing it.” But they won’t. They wouldn’t have hurt you in the first place if they were a decent human being. The worst part is, they pretended to be decent when you first met—sucking you in with this sweet, caring persona. They know how to be kind and good, but they find it boring.
What’s the point of a lie like that?
it’s always a lose-lose situation with a psychopath.
In the idealization phase, they couldn’t get enough of you. But once they have you hooked, they begin to play mind games.
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they get the high of sweeping you off your feet and making you a perfect servant to their mind games. But the downside is, eventually you subconsciously spit that poison right back in their face. You don’t want to ruin the idealize phase, but you find yourself unable to stop pointing out their lies and changed behavior.
they’ll always have a bitter respect for people who can see them for what they really are.
Psychopaths are always bored, and they constantly seek out stimuli to distract themselves from this nagging condition. They cannot tolerate being alone for any extended period of time. Healthy human beings learn to enjoy quiet time and introspection—this is how we discover some of the most important things about ourselves.
was always spending time with them and their friends, from one busy plan to the next. Psychopaths also have a tendency to behave like innocent children, surrounding themselves with maternal and paternal types who constantly want to be there for them, offering support and providing for them at every turn.
there’s more drama surrounding their life than anyone you’ve ever known.
After once texting you on a minute-by-minute basis and declaring you their “perfect” soul mate, they begin to pull away,
Think about the amount of calculation and planning it must take to pull this off. Psychopaths are cunning, cold, and very aware of their own behavior.
trust your gut.
You log onto Facebook and see them chatting away with friends and exes. They’re not unavailable; they’re ignoring you.
Choose the most insensitive way imaginable to dump you.
If someone truly feels all of the love and passion they proclaim, they will not be able to disappear months later without another word.
The emotional abuser slowly begins to back away. At first it’s subtle.
They don’t text or call quite as often, they seem less interested,
Even if you’re the sexiest, funniest, smartest person in the world, you will be forgotten and ignored.
The only time people need to prove their happiness to others is when they are, in fact, unhappy.
Like a drug, the psychopath offers you this feeling in full force at the beginning. But once you become reliant on it, they begin to pull back. Slowly, you need more and more to feel that same high. You do everything you can to hang on to it, while they’re doing everything in their power to keep you starving for their love and approval.
You begin to feel disgusted—horrified that you let this darkness into your life.
There is nothing wrong with your job. There is nothing wrong with your salary. There is nothing wrong with your home, your phone, your profile picture, or your single status. None of these things is the problem.
They are.
despite your intuition telling you something was wrong, a part of you still desperately wanted to believe in the manufactured soul mate.
When you first meet, they’ll seem unusually innocent, humble, childlike, and thoughtful.
they inevitably transform into a monster: manipulative, arrogant, and neglectful.
let go of the image you had of the person you loved.
You feel disgusted. You realize you were never loved—just another target in a never-ending cycle.
