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The fear of failure, vulnerability, and helplessness also fall into this category. However, every type of fear we experience in our daily lives is based on one thought: “I cannot handle it”. We are afraid we cannot handle the challenges of life such as rejection, failure, being alone or losing your money. If we did think we could handle it, why would we feel fear? Fear is more of an internal fight that we must deal with, instead of battling external factors. This final thought paves the way of this book. If we believe we can handle all the challenges that life throws at us, we have nothing to
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We often look at life for what it should be, instead of what it is. Everyone wants to have better luck in life. Being born in a wealthy family, with perfect looks. However, we have to live life with the hand that has been dealt to us.
Remember: it is not money that makes us happy, but progress. And without action, there is no progress. Living a stress-free life all starts with taking responsibility and requires you to not blame yourself.
People can only hurt you if you let them. Worrying about what other people say or think about you means that you let them. Live your life the way you feel is right and do not worry about what other people say. Do not let them hurt you. You cannot control what people think of you.
If you want to achieve things in your life, it's about aiming for daily progress. You want to exercise, read, work, learn, study, every single day. Remember this: Inconsistency is the enemy of results.
Unfortunately, this is often the case. Other people who have their fears and insecurities, project them willingly or unwillingly onto us. They project doubt into our minds. Next time when you face a stressful situation, ask yourself the same question I asked Chris: what is the worst thing that can happen? We find out that the worst thing that can happen is not that bad after all. At a certain stage in life, we all had to find work. For people who want to end a relationship: we have all been single in the past. You will survive.
Also celebrate the small wins and give yourself a pat on the back when you managed to control your emotions next time when you feel stressful.
The Roman philosopher Seneca argues that life is only short when you waste your time. We waste a lot of our time because we do not know how to use it. A life well lived is long enough.
When we adopt a mindset of “there are no wrong decisions,” we do not fear making bad decisions. Every decision we make will lead us to opportunities to learn and grow.
We are too hard on ourselves and we think that mistakes are bad. The only thing worse than making a mistake is not learning from it.
Dale Carnegie wrote the following in his book, How To Stop Worrying, And Start Living, about thoughtless people: “It is natural for people to forget to be grateful; so, if we go around expecting gratitude, we are headed straight for many heartaches.”
Next time we perform an act of kindness, give because of the joy that giving brings us. Marcus Aurelius put it best: “I do what is mine to do; the rest does not disturb me.” We have to do what is right, and not worry about whether people would recognize it.
So why do you exist? If you do not know, that is great, start giving meaning to finding your purpose. If you do know why you are here, that is also great. Spend every waking minute on your life's work.
Finding Your Purpose Remember: purpose is a decision. No one is born with purpose. It’s something we decide. Here’s a question for you: What are you? I’m not talking about your job title. What’s your life about? Answer that, and you will have your purpose. But most of us don’t have the answer to that simple question. We tend to overcomplicate things. But it’s actually very simple. Will Smith put it best when he was asked about this subject in an interview: “Just decide what it’s going to be, who you’re going to be, how you’re going to do it.” Decide. Go out. Do it. And don’t look back.
Instead of consciously thinking about your purpose, you can try an indirect approach. Just realize that your purpose is inside of you, it’s just afraid to expose itself. You must trust that someday it will seemingly appear out of nowhere. When that day comes, make a happy dance, celebrate, whatever, but the next day, wake up and start working on your purpose.
Worrying about the future or dwelling on the past will yield nothing, whereas living in the present moment does. If you manage to live in the present moment, you will experience neither stress nor anxiety.
Win or lose, success or failure, fear will always stay. You better learn how to fight it.
When it comes to our inner battles, it is not the goal to run away because that will lead to more hurt. Life is difficult. That will never change. Once you deal with one obstacle, another (often bigger) challenge is waiting for you. But that’s exactly what life is about. See? Life is not about hiding, running, or shying away from conflict. It’s about meeting your adversity head on.
If you do not watch out, you will become like everybody else. The fear of giving in to normality is something you actually should be afraid of.
‘you cannot do it' you need to hear 17 positive affirmations to overwrite or cancel out the original negative message. Fear and negativity surround us, and you need to arm yourself by training your mind. The only way to do it is to be aware of your inner battle. You can never slip up. You always have to be prepared for battle.
“Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.” - Jack Welch
As a leader, we give. Some people might wonder, “what's in it for me?” Zig Ziglar said it best: “You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help other people get what they want.”
Nowadays, I don’t worry anymore because I trust my ability to handle everything that life throws at me. Because knowledge, skills and character are the only things that no one can take from you—every minute you spend on learning something is well spent. No matter what happens, trust in your ability to address it. So start now.
The truth is that money comes and goes. I’ve lost a lot of money in my life, so what? Money is a commodity — don’t let it rule you. “I have no money, no resources, no hopes. I am the happiest man alive.” – Henry Miller
Stop Chasing With Your Eyes Closed If you’re always chasing things that you believe will make you happy, your life will be over in the blink of an eye.
I believe that, deep down, we all know that we don’t have infinite time on our hands. We know that life is not just about earning money, posting your holidays pictures on social media, or the job you have. It’s things like connection, experience, love, relationships, sharing, caring, that we value the most. We all know it, right? But it’s not about what you know, it’s about what you do.
Money Isn’t Important . It really isn’t. But you have to train yourself not to care about money. Don’t become too dependent on the stuff you own — otherwise, the stuff will own you.
Give Without Expecting Something In Return. Don’t keep score. You will become a bitter person if you do that. Give solely for the joy of giving. If you get something in return, great, if you don’t, great.
Never Look Back Too Long. Reflecting on the past is only good for one thing: Learning.
But there’s a fine line between understanding the value of time, and being impatient. One of my mentors is an entrepreneur in his late forties. When I recently told him I get impatient, he told me he’s exactly the same. He said: “Impatience makes smart people do stupid things.”
The road that you travelled turns you into the person you are today. I meet a lot of people in their twenties
But hardship defines you and your character. So suit yourself up, forget about the fast train, step in a car, and prepare yourself for one LONG ride that’s called life. But remember: Drive slow.
If you’re looking for someone who grabs you by the hand and tells you about life, you don’t need a mentor — you need experience.
Because what happens when you get upset or let other people get the best of you? You might give up what you do—you question yourself. Or maybe you start changing yourself for the worse — you stop being yourself.
Even though life is not a zero-sum game, life still remains a competition. We compete for attention, love, money, jobs. If you lose, or someone doesn’t like you, it’s not personal. They don’t know you. Why would you question yourself? Am I really a bad friend? Am I a bad person? No one likes me. That’s your mind coming up with weird stuff. I prefer to look at things for what they are. Life is competition and sometimes you lose — that’s all. Get over it. Don’t start losing faith in mankind all of a sudden. Nothing is personal. The world doesn’t revolve around yourself.
Otto von Bismarck put it best: “Fools learn from experience. I prefer to learn from the experience of
4. Read Multiple Books Simultaneously There are no rules to reading so you can do whatever you want. At times, I’m reading 5 books at once. I might read 50 pages of one book in the morning and then read another book in the afternoon. That’s how I prefer it. Others like to read a book cover to cover and only then read something new. If you’re reading something that’s complicated, you might want to read something that’s easier for the evenings. I like to read biographies before I go to sleep because they are like stories. Fiction also works well in the evening. I don’t want to read a book about
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