Out of shame over his inadequacy, and in some fear of being pulled over onto the mother’s side before he has stabilized himself as a man, the boy finds in himself an inexplicable anger, a rage that prevents the mother’s dream of a delicate man from becoming real. This anger may exhibit itself when the teenage son talks ugly to his mother in the kitchen. This is his private form of heavy-metal lyrics, bewildering to her. The inexplicable anger may turn up later in hundreds of other ways: isolation, workaholism, or the deeds of a thoughtless Don Juan or James Bond who rip off women sexually, and
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