But if you begin with owning and apologizing for ways you have failed her, or for poor ways you have dealt with this failure, your humility paves the way. Here is what it does: 1. It lets her know you care. 2. It lets her know you are not there to lord it over her or be judgmental. 3. It lets her know you are not there to “win.” 4. It models for her what humility looks like and takes away the shame she might feel.
