“I’d like to talk about keeping the apartment neat. I have a problem with how you leave dishes and clothes all around, and I’d like to find a solution to this problem. At the same time, I want you to know that I’m not trying to put you down. I really value our friendship, and I like being with you. In fact, I am bringing this up because the problem is getting in the way of our relationship. I want to be closer, not farther from you.”
