Kindle Notes & Highlights
It’s important for you to understand the anatomy of your arguments so that you can uncover the patterns and themes that recur.
It's important to argue. It is okay to argue. It is normal to argue.
single secret to failing relationships, but there’s also a simple solution. It goes like this: “Can I trust you?” “Yes.”
You are also responsible for turning toward your partner’s bids rather than burying your nose in your phone.
You can ward off those sneaky, small, everyday betrayals—the key is to build a big pile of Yes. Concentrate first on “Yes, I am trustworthy,” and lean into “Yes, I trust you.” Betrayal may be the root cause of every troubled relationship, but Yes is at the heart of every thriving one. Trust me.
Trust is HUGE. Make it visible to your person.
Don’t allow contempt and criticism to run free. Rein them in and replace them with compassion for yourself and for your partner. That way, you can dream together about how to get what you really want from your relationship.
You have the ability to respond with patience, grace, humility, and even strength.
if laughter is what makes us human, then humor is critical to relationships as a necessary tie that binds us to one another.
